One friend (who wishes to remain anonymous lest her non-boyfriend reads this) explains: “I’ve been seeing this guy for four months now – we’re dating and see each other a couple of times a week.
However, if anyone refers to me as his girlfriend in front of him, the colour drains from his face.
” explaining how proper dating has been replaced with casual hook ups and ill-defined relationships. And when I say I’ve learnt this the hard way, I mean it.
Online dating, and our ability to be in constant contact with everyone we know via text, email or social media make us unwilling to commit to one person, and more likely to want to hedge our bets. In an article I wrote earlier this year about modern dating, I used the example of a man I’d been sleeping with for over a year, who got cross when I referred to him as my boyfriend.
More than 30 percent don’t even know where to begin and nearly 30 percent say they find it too stressful (think back to those sweaty palms and awkward conversations.) For more than 40 percent of respondents, other priorities are simply more important, and nearly one-quarter say it’s just too difficult to date when you’re 50-plus.
That’s true whether you’re 16 or 56, but more than 40 percent don’t believe there is anyone “out there” to date.
Have you ever resisted the urge to sleep with someone because it was only your second date?
If you haven't gathered by now, I can be (at times, painfully) sarcastic. A lot of your emotional voice will likely be omitted through basic SMS text messages, especially during the beginning stages of relationships – friendships or intimate ones.
If you read my work, and don't know me personally, – or have a sh*tty detector for satire – it is likely that most of my sarcastic tone will go right over your head. There's only so much emotion our eyes can read, and pick up, in text. For instance, the way you say “get the f*ck out of here” to your college roommate, in that heavy Brooklyn accent, is f*cking hilarious.
We are the generation of laissez-faire souls who thrive off meaningless sex with good-looking people.
I'm talking about those unspoken rules our generation places around dating.